As I shared before, we decided not to share a picture of our new baby boy, Jaylen, because there was still a small chance that his first mom could revoke her consent for us to parent him. We wanted to be cautious and respectful. During our last visit, I had a conversation with Miss N. (Jaylen's birthmommy), where she looked at me like I was crazy for not posting pictures! This girl amazes me time and again... she
wants people to see his picture, to celebrate his arrival, and to see his gorgeous face! She asked that I send pictures and videos of his homecoming, because she
wants to see him welcomed home. I don't know if I have the stuff it would take to see strangers welcome my child into their lives, while I watched from a distance. I admire her selfless love, and her genuine joy in his being placed in our home. I want to be like her when I grow up.
Our conversation about the photos got me thinking about the fear I am still holding. I have said over and over that I want to live fearlessly, letting go of self-protection in favor of grace and recklessly abandoned faith. These things are true, but I am also still scared she will change her mind. She has given us no reason to believe that will happen, but it is still a very vulnerable position to be in - for both her and us!
Still, she gave us permission to share pictures with the world... and I am delighted to do just that!
So, here is the debut of our special guy, Mr. Jaylen Jonathan Khalil Capuano
I was adopted as an infant and it has been so great to read about Jaylen's story and homecoming! So glad to see that he is with a family that will and does love him no matter what and that he has such a supportive birth mom who only wants the best for him. Please keep sharing this journey.
ReplyDeleteThanks for following Melissa... if there are two things I want people to take away from these blog posts about our journey it would be these things: 1) that adopted children are LOVED by so many people, and are chosen by God and a forever family and a birthmama who chose life for them! 2) Birthmoms are real people who love their children wildly. I know there are a million different situations, but in my experience... birthmoms choose adoption for a thousand different reasons, but they almost always are driven by pure LOVE.
ReplyDeleteMelissa, I hope you feel that loved. :)
He is beautiful!! Such a lucky little man to have so many welcome and love him with open arms. Everyone is truly blessed.
ReplyDeleteWe are blessed indeed, thanks for following along on our journey!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your precious pics! So sweet!
ReplyDeleteWow, he's adorable. Very happy for you guys!
ReplyDeleteOh! Such a little punkin! He is just precious and perfect. So excited for you guys!
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